Gathering with locals in Lyon, France to have a simple meal of bread, cheese, and vin de'table is very different from gathering with locals in Plymouth, New Hampshire to have a Subway sandwich. Not better or worse, just different.
Courtship rituals the Spanish Steps in Rome, Italy are very different than in a pub in Newcastle, England.
I recently read The Culture Code by Clotaire Rapaille, a cultural anthropologist who has developed a method for describing the reasons people around the world live and behave as they do. The book helped me understand some of the variation I've seen around the world.
For example, when purchasing a car, Americans seek a car that will express their identity. Germans will seek a car that optimizes engineering. American children will build a fantasy castle from Lego. German children will use Lego blueprints to build an exact scale model.
The chapters on relationships were fascinating. The descriptions are stereotypes, but interesting nonetheless. Culturally, Americans have unrealistic expectations of perfection in relationships (our 50% divorce rate is good evidence of this). English men spend a great deal of time with their mates at the pub and build a complex set of relationships outside the home that leads English women to fight for the attention of their men. Wander around Quayside in Newcastle on a Saturday night and you'll see the way that young women dress to attract the attention of their men. The Japanese view marriage as a practical partnership, often arranged by their parents. This does not imply marital bliss but the 2% divorce rate suggests it aligns with expectations.
Other chapters in the book explore Health, Youth, Home, Food, Work, Money, Shopping, and the way other cultures perceive America.
Although the idea of reducing complex cultural histories to a few key words (Culture Codes) is overly simplistic, several ideas ring as true
* Americans treat food as fuel rather than a high quality pleasurable experience to be savored
* Americans view buying over the internet as a focused task, while shopping at a mall is a social event
* Americans crave change, so making perfect products of high quality that last a long time does not align with our desire to have constantly improved products that work well enough for a short time and can then be replaced.
After reading the book, I have a new framework for approaching food, business meetings, and travel throughout the world.